When a fan becomes a friend. Part 3

Fast forward year later, we were ending a recording of our podcast (#EPBPodcast check us out on Stitcher, iTunes, and Podbean. Shameless plug) and then we debriefed about what we will talk about on the next show.

J: Aye, since we are all +FE fans and their album (Tales From The Land of Milk and Honey) is coming out next week, why don’t we ask Phonte to come on our show?

Others: That would be dope!

Me: *silence*

T: Well, we all know who needs to ask Phonte to be on the show.

*even more awkward silence*

A: If we don’t get him, I have some other ideas.

Me: It’s cool. I’ll ask him and report back.

-End of conversation

When I get off the phone, I freaked out. WHAT THE HELL DID I JUST AGREE TO DO?!?! I can’t back down now. I’m the one who talks to him more frequently on Twitter so it makes more sense for me to ask.  However, this doesn’t mean I was any less nervous about it. How in the hell was I going to ask him? I don’t have any contact information outside of Twitter. Do I just ask him on the very public twitter time line? That’s not very professional.

The only way to carry this out is in the Twitter DM’s (direct messages).

It goes down in the DM’s ©

Mercy. This is going to be awkward as hell. When I think (and you too) of DMs, I think of unsolicited n00dz and unwanted attention. But I don’t know any other way to do this. Sigh.

I went ahead and hit him via direct message. I must have typed and retyped that 20-word message about 30 times. Then I put my phone down. I didn’t want to be waiting for a response so I prepared myself for bed. 20 minutes after the initial response, I received DM back 10 minutes later.

Oh shit.

The message read:

“Hit me up anytime, cuz.”

*insert contact information*


*passes out on the floor*


I typed a brief email and sent it quickly for fear of sounding like a damn fool.
Several weeks later, I got received an email from Phonte.

“I can do the show this Sunday.”


I quickly go to the podcast group chat at 7am on Saturday morning and in all caps to say:


But guess what? Earlier in the week, we didn’t think we would be able to record that Sunday because, we all had schedule conflicts. So I asked the rest of my cohosts, “Should we reschedule?” I got hit with the resounding NO. Even if our Sundays had to get rearranged we had to make this work. We had to get clarity on whether he wanted to do the whole show or just a segment. So we decided on the topics for the show, I typed the outline and sent him the time we would record the podcast by email. He hit me up a few hours later and agreed to do the whole show.



To limit technical difficulty we agreed we would do a Google Hangout with Tay and J and then the rest of us would record together in the same area. Despite being prepared, I was still nervous as a hooker in church. This was the FIRST conversation I would have with Phonte not involving typed words, using gifs, and pictures. This was the first time he would hear my speaking voice. We get to TALK to one of our favorite artist and ask anything we want.

Universe help me not to fuck this up. T poured A and myself glasses of wine. 

Thank God for wine. I take several sips.

Here goes nothing.

We sent him a Google invite. 10 minutes later, he comes on the screen.


A starts talking and explaining to him the flow of the show. He nods and agrees. Then he asks, “Are you Bridgette?”


I’m here. *waves at the screen*

A: She’s right here beside me.

*she pulls my chair closer to the computer screen*

I introduce T and J and we start the show.

Now if we didn’t record that show, I would  barely remember anything about what happened. That 2 hours came and went so fast. I do remember becoming more relaxed after that glass of wine and how easy it was to interview him. He had an ease about him. He was witty and he was so intelligent. He mentioned some famous, troubled philosopher I had to use my Googles to get the context. It was fun and I’m glad we all had the pleasure to do it.

After the it was over, T and myself ran around the house like kids in a candy store.


And I really thought that was enough to satisfy my little ego.

But the story gets better.


How a fan becomes a friend: Part 2

I was nervous as hell to tweet after I found out Phonte followed me on Twitter.

I didn’t want to say anything stupid to fuck that up.

But quickly those feelings dissipated and we corresponded on Twitter more. We talked about tv shows, music, family, relationships, women who wore wedges (LOL), amongst other random conversations. Other band members would follow me on Twitter. Nicolay. Then Zo. Then they would follow me on other social media sites (Instagram and FB) and I would chat with them. That was enough to satisfy my little ego.


In 2014 +FE is back  in my hometown for another concert. We were running late that night. I tried to make up time by speeding. Then I got a damn speeding ticket. We ended up getting to the show  ten minutes before it was supposed to start and it was PACKED. There was only room by the left side of the stage and we were blocking the steps. I wanted to move but my husband refused.

Hubbs: If the ask us to move, we will. But as for right now, let’s sit tight.

Me: Okay.

The show started late, thank goodness. We went to get drinks to calm our nerves and prepared for the show. The steps after the introduction was made but we didn’t have to lose our spot. 

Upfront, stage left. 

The show starts and despite things starting off rough, I was relaxed and ready to have a good time. 

About 5 songs into the set, the band goes into “The Moment” from their album Love in Flying Colors. I notice that Phonte pulls out his phone and starts looking left of the stage. I can’t tell exactly where he is looking because he has on sunglasses. I start to notice him walking left of the stage. No big deal, right?

He walks past the other 2 singers (Tamisha Waden and Carmen Rodgers) who are VERY left of the stage.

Okay, this is a big deal.

“Where is he going?”

Phonte gets close enough to me, reaches down, and grabs me for a selfie from the stage. Then proceeds to go right back to singing as if nothing happened.



He would later send that picture to me via Twitter.

(I was prepared this time for the photo than the last. I was proud enough to put it on the ‘gram)

As the show ends, he walks off the stage gives me a big hug. Then proceeds to dap and hug my husband.

Man, LOOK.

I needed time to gather myself after that. So I sat down on the stage to catch a breather.  I went to buy a t-shirt form the merchandise table and I gave Nicolay a hug as I was leaving. I went home with a full spirit floating on the way home.

My favorite artist knows who I am *check*

Talks to me via social media *check*

And acknowledges me at concerts *check*

That’s enough excitement to satisfy my little ego for a lifetime.




How a fan becomes a friend: Part 1

I joined twitter in 2009 to follow one of my favorite artists, Phonte Coleman. At the time he was in a rap group called Little Brother and is now in group called the Foreign Exchange. He also hosted a podcast called Gordon Gartrell Radio. It was a great way for me to find out when new podcast would drop, when there was a new single coming out, or just hear news about both groups in general. Who knew that this would evolve into a something bigger than I could ever imagine.

Every now and again I would tweet Phonte on Twitter with a question here (“When does the podcast drop?”) or a comment there, (“I really enjoyed the podcast today.”) Every now and again he would respond and that would satisfy my meager ego.


In 2011, The Foreign Exchange came to perform in my hometown. This was their first time here and I was excited as hell to get the chance to see them. The show started on time and I was amazed at how this 20-dollar show was worth much more. Phonte is a real showman. He is going to give a rap, R&B, comedy, and a sermon all in 2 hours. My soul was full because I got to see them perform. I was more than satisfied with that. As my husband and I went to close out our tab at the bar, we noticed Nicolay (the other half of the Foreign Exchange) walking around taking pics with fans. Then I noticed Zo (Lorenzo Ferguson), the musical director and keyboard player for the touring band in the far right of the venue doing the same. So my husband and I decided that I should go speak to Zo while he was closing out the tab. We would talk to Nicolay on the way out, then head home.

As I made my way to Zo, I saw into Chris Boerner, the guitar player for +FE touring band. We exchanged pleasantries and went our separate ways. Suddenly I see Phonte in front of me talking to another couple. I immediately froze. This is much different than corresponding with him via computer screen or a twitter app. This was my favorite artist in the flesh less than 10 feet in front of me. My husband then walks up and wonders why I look like I’ve seen a ghost. I quickly explained to him that Phonte is front of me. We both freak out silently and our eyes looking like 9 inch plates. Mr. Coleman then wraps up his conversation with the couple and he standing there alone. It was as if NO ONE else noticed him but us. This is my chance to introduce myself but my legs are stuck.  I want to say hello but I have a lump in my throat and I can’t speak. Luckily, my husband decides to be brave. He introduces himself, says how much he enjoys his music, and introduces me.  Phonte gives me a hug and it felt like he had known me for years. My husband asked to take a picture. Phonte happily obliges. My husband then goes to find someone to take the photo.

Then Phonte looks at me and then ask…

”Yo, don’t I follow you on Twitter?”



Yo. How in the HELL did he remember that without me prompting him?!

Girl comes back to take the picture.

*camera flashes*

It’s seriously one of the worst pictures I’ve taken.

(Tay and my husband look great).

But it doesn’t matter because one of my favorite artist ever remembered who #EYE was and I floated on the way home.

Can’t get any better, right?!



The Soundtrack to my life for 2014.

I’ve always wanted to do one of these. I love music that much that I would dedicate a blog post to my favorite songs of the year. I know it’s some weird geek thing to do because there are so many other blog, magazine, social media posts dedicated to them. But I’m doing one anyway. So here are my favorite jams that provided the soundtrack to my life this year.

This tracked dropped early in the year. When I saw that Phonte was on it, (which is one of my favorite artists lever), I tried to break my neck to listen to it.  It’s produced by Khrysis and it is apart of the Jamla’s is the Squad compilation. Talib Kweli and Elzhi  hold their own on this track as well. The song felt good especially in the cold winter months. It reminded of warm spring days with the top down.

I’m not even sure how I found Phil Beaudreau or this track. Probably perusing around on twitter like I find out about other music. I saw someone post it and boom, it’s been in constant rotation in 2014. I’ve added to my list of songs I listen to when I’m doing my homework. Its relaxing but not so relaxing that it bores me to sleep. The rest of “Ether” is great, too. Preview it on Soundcloud and/or Spotify and then buy it on iTunes.

Now technically I heard Heart of the Moment last fall on the Full Moon EP  but they put it on their self titled album this year. So I’m throwing this on this blog post. I’m not sure why but most of their music reminds me of autumn. Maybe because I first heard their EP Lightyears Fall of 2012 and I have crowned it the music to listen to when October hits. Whatever my reasons, the track makes me want to dance a quick to step.

When my husband told me about Cyhi Da Prynce, Black Hystori Project I wasn’t really excited about listening to it. I have been so far removed from hip-hop but one day we were cleaning up and it was playing in the backgroud and I dug it….ALOT. So it was really hard for me to pick one song from this mixtape because so many stuck out. 3 16 uses the same sample from De La Soul’s Stakes is High, there is also Mandela, Basquiat, and so many great ones. I chose this one, though. Guitar Melody is perfect strip club music. I just discovered that this song had a video and I am kinda jealous that I’m not one of the girls in the video. (Not really…..)

Alex.Isley. She is so damn dope. If she sounds familiar it’s because a) Her dad is Ernie Isley of the famous Isley brothers and b) She did background for Robin Thicke’s not so successful album Paula. (No shade to her whatsoever, those background vocals or fire). I was introduced to her through one of my followers on twitter in 2012.  You can check out some of her other music here. Anywho, back to talking about the song. This is a blend of two songs I Still Love You by 702 and Run to the Sun by NERD. She blends these so well, I forget that they are 2 separate tracks and more importantly I forget that these are not her songs. It is so smooth and has been in constant rotation on my Soundcloud.

Me liking a Future Song. The world is truly turned on his it’s side. This junt GOES. Maybe because it’s a Mike Will production. Maybe because Pharrell actually raps his ASS off on it. Maybe because when I hear it, all couth is loss. I don’t know but this is definitely a 2014 favorite for not just me but many.

G I R L is one of my favorite albums this year because it just puts me in the best mood. It was SO HARD to pick a track. It was between this track and Gust of Wind. So I flipped a coin and this won. No seriously, that’s what I did. Plus how can you deny that, “GOOD MOOOOORRRRRNNNINNNGG, YOU GOT ME FEELIN BRAND NEW.” This song reminds me so much of a Jackson 5 jam. Justin is of course Mike Jackson because he can carry the higher notes and Pharrell giving us his best Jermaine Jackson.

Raleigh Ritchie BKA Grey Worm AKA the Unsullied. If you are Game of Thrones fan, you will get those references. He sings and he is pretty good, too. Not sure how I stumbled onto this one either but it is on constant replay. This is on the mixtape he did with the Internet entitled Black and Blue Point Two, which is also fish grease.

Usher is back with jam. Even grandmothers and young children are singing Good Kisser and they have no idea what they singing about it. LOL. I do like the original but I ran across this version on Soundcloud and I haven’t been able to play the original since.

Erro and KING. God answers prayers. “The Box” was previewed on Pandora a few weeks before it was released and I couldn’t get through the album because I couldn’t stop playing this song. So many other people felt the same way I did and we couldn’t wait for the album to drop. So some of my twitter buddies passed it around it our DMs so we could just download it to our iPod devices. As a result, i bought the album on pre-order in which I RARELY do. Listen to this and tell me that you don’t feel like running through a field of daisies.

“TWO FIFTEENS. FIFTEENS….”Krit came back in a big way. He came out earlier this year Mt. Olympus and got our attention and ended the year with his album Cadillactica. This is the standout track for me because this one is an ass-shaker. One more thing: BASS. This shit knocks in the car. It passed that test with FLYING colors.

I was at a Zo! and Carmen Rogers concert, and the MC mentioned Jarrod Lawson. So the next day I checked him out via Spotify. He looks NOTHING like he sounds but his self titled album is AWESOME. So many gems on there but this is my favorite. A great track to start your day.

I was listening to the Where’s My 40 Acres podcast and they created a playlist on Spotify of some of their favorite joints this year. I was listening to the playlist trying to get through my work day and this came on and I couldn’t stop playing it. It’s so sexy. You hit an instant body roll when you hear it.

Now you know I couldn’t complete this list without putting a Migos track on here. Now I’m not going to lie, I thought Migos was one person and secondly, Hannah Montana sounded like……retarded to me. Sorry. Not sorry. But Fight Night is fresh and catchy.

Hiatus Kaiyote was nominated for Grammy for Nakamarra feat Q-tip (which is also a jam) and I have been a fan ever since. I heard the sampler they put up on Soundcloud and this song instantly caught my attention. This joint is jamming. I haven’t gotten out of my psyche since. I wake up singing it. I walk around the house singing it. I cook to it. I ride to it. I dance to it. Needless to say, I can’t wait until the full album drops next year.

Campaigns for #MikeBrown #Ferguson

Here is a list of donations, protests, and petitions that you can do to help the people in #Ferguson and to assist #MikeBrown and #EzellFord all others who have been killed by the hands of the police. I will try to update as much as possible.
Donations for Mike Brown’s Family:
Michael Brown Memorial Fund:
These funds will assist his family with costs that they will acquire as they seek justice on Michael’s behalf. All funds will be given to the Michael Brown family. http://www.gofundme.com/justiceformikebrown
College 4 MikeBrown’s Siblings:
This effort will help support Mike Brown’s siblings, 2 younger sisters and a younger brother go to college. It is run by Sara
Goldrick-Rab, UW professor of the Wisconsin HOPE Lab ( http://www.wihopelab.com) and Michael Johnson of the Boys and Girls Club of Dane County (Madison, WI) can vouch that all funds will go directly to the family. http://www.gofundme.com/d1rprk
Other Donations:
This is a fund for Ferguson organizers from the area and protesting for the justice of Mike Brown.They were once asking for supplies but thanks to your support, they have an overabundance of supplies and are now asking for donations. Please refer to website for more information.
Bail and Legal Fund for Those Arrested During Ferguson Anti-Police Demonstrations:
A bail and legal fund has been established to support people who have been arrested during the anti-police demonstrations in Ferguson, Mo. If you have a friend or family member who was arrested, please email us their name at antistatestl@riseup.net
Dream Defenders: Have began a teespring campaign of Don’t Shoot tee shirts to support the people on the ground in Ferguson. 100% of the sales will go to the organization Missourians Organizing for Reform and Empowerment to help with bail, legal support, supplies, and organizers on the ground. Please check out their website here:
They also have a tshirt campaign: http://teespring.com/fergusondontshoot
I AM HUMAN-Support Fergurson
All proceeds from these shirts and hoodies will go to support the protesters in Ferguson demonstrating peacefully against the unjust murder of unarmed teen, Mike Brown. Once the protesting stops, then the rest of the proceeds will go to support the legal defense for Mike Brown. These start at $16. Please refer to the teespring campaign for more details:
#OperationHelpOrHush grew organically on the social media platform Twitter in the midst of the events occurring in Ferguson, MO following the death of Mike Brown. After this unfortunate set of events, a campaign was launched to help assist the protestors in Ferguson. It has now since grown to a wider audience. Please refer to the website for more information. http://operationhelporhush.org/
Jail support info for those who are arrested at Mike Brown rallies in Ferguson.
St. Stephen’s Food Pantry
The help distribute food to those in need and currently due to the situation going on in Ferguson they were looted and those goods go to needy families in that area. They need boxed meals such as Hamburger Helper and lots of toiletries. Donations are now being accepted on their website: http://saint-stephens.info/collaboration/our-community-the-vine/food-pantry/
Here is the contact info for shipping items:
St. Stephen’s Food Pantry
33 N Clay Ave Ferguson, MO 63135
Ph: 314-521-0138
St. Louis Business Journal has created a list resource list for those who also need assistance in their community. Their list will also be updated as they collect more information. Please click link: http://www.bizjournals.com/stlouis/morning_call/2014/08/as-unrest-continues-in-ferguson-volunteers.html?ana=twt
St. Louis Urban League: http://www.ulstl.com/
They are accepting donations and collecting non-perishable food items.
If you wish to donate items to STL Urban League please ship them to:
ATTN: Barbara Bowman
Urban League Metropolitan of St. Louis
3701 Grandel Square
St. Louis, MO 63108
Please call 314-615-3668 for additional questions.
Mike Brown Law. Requires all state, county, and local police to wear a camera:
A petition for a Mike Brown Law is asking to be created because to the latest accounts of deadly encounters with police. That law will set aside funds to require all state, county, and local police, to wear a camera. https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/mike-brown-law-requires-all-state-county-and-local-police-wear-camera/8tlS5czf
Petition to remove Bob McCulloch from any grand jury proceedings in regards to the Micheal Brown investigation. Find information about it here: https://www.change.org/p/judge-maura-please-recuse-biased-prosecutor-bob-mcculloch-2?recruiter=37856323&utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=twitter&utm_campaign=share_twitter_mobile
A Unified Statement of Action to Promote Reform and Stop Police Abuse: http://signup.lawyerscommittee.org/p/dia/action3/common/public/index?action_KEY=10281&start=25
St Louis Support for Ferguson:
This form is for SPECIFIC needs that on the ground organizers, protestors, and organizations have in Ferguson. It is ONLY for folks in St. Louis to use. We will contact you once the form is completed. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/12j2hnSrjVXrE3Lk_wHVcGKoDdr38EwVmlm1FdsOHjE4/viewform?c=0&w=1
Amnesty International: Deploy Human Rights Delegation to Ferguson, MO:
Don’t Shoot MO Campaign
Please review website for more information:
Hands Up United: Was created to end to state sponsored violence, including the excessive use of force by law enforcement.
They have several protest happening worldwide and to find out more information about donating, attending a protest, or organizing your own movement in your city click on the website here: http://www.handsupunited.org/
Other Pertinent Info:
#Ferguson Support Collection:
This was a google doc that was created that has information on crisis counseling for those affected by the happenings in Ferguson, ustreams of live protests, legal support, etc.
United Way of St. Louis has crisis support services that are available to those affected by the tragic events in  Ferguson. To find help, please call 2-1-1 or 1-800-427-4626.

Black Podcasts on #Ferguson and Police Brutality

I created this post to put a collection of podcast that have covered and are currently covering the information on Michael Brown, Ferguson, and police brutality in general. I thought it was important to share this information and get different perspectives of what is “real people” are saying about Ferguson and not what you see or hear on large news media outlets. Please listen and support these outlets by sharing this post, listening to their podcast, and supporting their movement.

*some of these contain graphic language*

The Black Guy Who Tips: Rod and Karen have several episodes available discussing Michael Brown and Ferguson. Episodes: 765, 766. 767, and 768 all have different viewpoints about what has occurred in Ferguson have the past several days. You can find them on iTunes, Stitcher, and PodOmatic or you can refer listen from their website: http://www.theblackguywhotips.com/

Classick Team-Up: In this podcast, Classick speaks with wonderful mother and cook Nona, aka twitter personality @SheSeauxSaditty, about #OperationHelporHush, the humanitarian effort she used on social media to bring aid to the protesters on the ground in Ferguson, Missouri.

Classick Team-Up: SPECIAL EDITION: #Ferguson, How Can I Help? w/@SheSeauxSaditty

CBC Radio: Listen to an excerpt from our panel discussion on the two different worlds that exist in Ferguson, Missouri. Or click the Listen button above for the full conversation. The STL rapper Vandalyzm is in this interview.

CBC Radio: Ferguson

The EveningJones: Bomani Jones has two episodes in which he gives his opinion on  Michael Brown and Ferguson.

The Evening Jones

Good and Terrible Podcast: Beauty Jackson and Ceej discuss police brutality that has happened all over the U.S. and the happenings in Ferguson, MO. They have 2 special guest: @SayDatAgain from The Black Guy Who Tips podcast and  @Classickmateria, who is executive producer of Cold Slither Podcast Network.

The Good and Terrible Show Ep 11-Police Brutality (with guests @SayDatAgain & @classickmateria).

NWAP: Four Young Black men discuss the tragic events around the shooting of Mike Brown This episode features an interview with @Nettaaaaaaaa ,a protester on the ground in the Ferguson community.

NWAP: Episode 12: The Siege of Ferguson

The Read: Crissles and Kid Fury discuss hip-hop and pop culture, read listener letters, and then go into a very passionate “the read” about Mike Brown, the Ferguson police, and the attitudes black people with police.

The Read: The Upheavel

Straight Outta Lo Cash: This podcast is based out of St. Louis and discuss what is happening ground zero in Ferguson. They have special guest Alderman of the 27th Ward, Clem Smith 87th District State Representative, James Mcgowan of Beyond Housing, hip hop artists Vandalyzm and IamHandsomeRob, and Rhashad Whittier who have all been influential from the ground of many of the protests.

Straight Outta Lo Cash: We Are All #MikeBrown We Are All #Ferguson

TWIB: Elon James is in Ferguson, MO and has several podcast dedicated to what the protestors are doing in the area.

*Please listen to the audio of Elon James, Awkward Duck, and Netta (2 protestors in Ferguson) who are being tear gassed in a neighborhood in Ferguson. This is acutal live footage*: https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=youtu.be&v=DA4IT-rGNDg&app=desktop

Podcasts:TWIB: Ferguson

WudUpDoe: The WudUpDoe podcast has 2 episodes that discuss the Reneisha McBride, Eric Garner, and Michael Brown. They also talk about the deeper racial implications behind these deaths, dealings with the police, and the loss of young black lives.

WudUpDoe Podcast Episode 14

WudUpDoe Podcast Episode 15

What’s the Tea: Nic and Reg discuss POTUS’ comments on Mike Brown and what some of the standpoints of what some celebrities are (or not saying) about what is going in Ferguson.

WTT 064 – #Ferguson

Where’s My 40 Acres: A hip-hop podcast that discusses music but they also discuss social issues. In these two episodes they talk about Mike Brown, police brutality, media coverage, and even POTUS.

Where’s My 40 Acres: Hands Up, We Are Ferguson

Where’s My 40 Acres: No Good, Obama

2 Guys and a Girl:😄, Jade, J. Williams discuss Mike Brown, their personal experience with the police, and how POTUS is dealing with the Micheal Brown situation.

2 Guys and A Girl: Say It Loud!

Would you like to lend your voice, send donations, are even provide your signature, please check out my post here.

When the Smoke Clears

So I have set a date (in my mind) when I wish to start doing my breastfeeding support group. July 2014. I’m in a facebook group that talks about breastfeeding and other things that would be seen as an alternative lifestyle for raising children (its weird to think of breastfeeding as an alternative lifestyle but here we are). One of the members noted that the Le Leche League meeting that is held on Thursday mornings will no longer be able to hold meetings. I do believe that LLL leader was a woman of color. The big thing about trying to influence women of color to breastfeed is seeing someone else that looks like them and have the same background as they do is to be a presence. What is also important is to be a resource. So that is more motivation to go ahead and get the ball rolling.

I have to let the smoke clear from a personal life right first. There is SO much going and it is hard to focus on the things I do everyday; like going to work.  But soon these things will settle themselves and I can start to focus how I can get into these grassroots. First things first, I need to develop a curriculum. Then I need to find a place, then recruit people to come. Sounds easy enough, right? We shall see. The pressure is on…especially since I have set a date.